Frequently asked questions

Sugar dating is a form of dating in which two adults openly agree beforehand what they expect from each other and what they offer one another. It often involves an ambitious, established partner and a partner who shares time, attention and companionship, with mutual respect and clarity as the starting point. At Seek For Sugar, every member is 18 or older and manually verified.

A sugar daddy (in Dutch, a "suikeroom") is an established, typically well-off partner who wants to share their time, experience and means with someone who appreciates it. At Seek For Sugar this role is called Gentleman. You describe in advance what you offer and what you are looking for, so both sides know where they stand.

A sugar baby is an ambitious, often younger partner who enters a relationship with a sugar daddy based on mutual appreciation and clear agreements. In Dutch you may also hear "suikernichtje" or "suikerneefje". At Seek For Sugar this role is called Member. Everyone is 18 or older and is verified first.

Yes. Sugar dating between consenting adults is not a criminal offence in the Netherlands or Belgium. Coercion, deception, exploitation and human trafficking are offences, including within sugar dating. Seek For Sugar is for adults only and does not offer sexual services itself; we are a platform where adults can get in touch with one another. If you are unsure about your own situation, please seek advice.

No, absolutely not. Sugar dating is about getting to know someone, companionship and mutual agreements, not a paid service per meeting. Seek For Sugar is not an escort platform: we do not offer sexual services and we do not encourage them. We are simply a platform where adults can get in touch with one another.

In three steps. First, you sign up for free and have your profile verified. Then you state clearly what you offer and what you are looking for. After that, you chat privately, arrange a first meeting and decide for yourself how things develop. You must be at least 18 years old.

Yes, signing up is free. You create a profile and complete verification, which usually takes less than a day. Only afterwards do you see the rates for your role, and you decide for yourself whether and when to become a member.

Each profile is checked manually for photo and identity before it becomes visible. This keeps fake profiles out and means you know you are talking to real people. The check usually takes less than a day. There are no unverified members.

Gentleman and Member are the two roles on Seek For Sugar. A Gentleman is the established partner (the sugar daddy), and a Member is the ambitious partner (the sugar baby). Each role has its own membership and terms. You choose your role when you sign up and describe what you offer and what you are looking for.

Signing up and verification are free. Rates depend on your role and the length of the plan, and are shown in your account after verification, before you pay anything. That way you know exactly where you stand. You never pay without first having seen the price, term and conditions.

You pay on a secure payment page provided by our payment provider Mollie, with methods including iDEAL, PayPal, Bancontact and many more. You see the total amount and the terms before you confirm the payment.

No, your membership never renews automatically. When the period you chose ends, it simply stops, so you do not need to cancel and no further payment is taken. If you want to stay longer, you renew it yourself with a new payment.

Yes. Seek For Sugar is aimed at the Netherlands and Belgium, but members outside these countries can sign up and use our platform. When you sign up, you choose your place of residence from a list, including places outside the Netherlands. That way you can find members near you or in another city.

A good profile is honest, clear and personal. The more complete your profile, the faster others will trust you. Add several recent photos, say briefly who you are, what you offer and what you are looking for, and be specific about what matters to you. Avoid personal details such as your address or employer.

No, you cannot change your username later, so choose carefully. Use 3 to 20 characters, letters and numbers only. Avoid a name that points to your real name or employer, so that your profile stays discreet.

Discretion is our starting point. Profiles only become visible after verification, you decide with whom you share your photos, and you can hide your profile. Our website is fully secured (https). Your profile and photos sit behind the login, so they cannot be found through Google and are never visible to people who are not members. We handle your data carefully in line with the GDPR. Our privacy policy explains exactly what we store and why.

With the private photo vault, you share photos only with members you choose, and you can withdraw that access at any time. In hidden mode you browse invisibly, and your profile is only visible to members you have approached. This keeps you in control of who sees what.

Sugar dating is safe if you take the same precautions as with any online date. Meet in a public place first, tell someone you trust where you are, keep your personal details private, and NEVER lend or send money to someone you do not know. Report suspicious behaviour straight away using the report button.

Be alert if someone quickly asks for money, gift cards or personal details, wants to move to another app, makes unrealistic promises or refuses to provide clear photo proof. Never send money in advance, and report suspicious profiles immediately. Our moderation team reviews reports.

Use the report button on the profile or message and briefly explain what happened. Our moderation team reviews the report. If you feel you are in danger, contact the police straight away (112 in an emergency).

Talk openly before your first meeting about what you are looking for: how often you will see each other, what kind of contact you want and what your boundaries are. Clarity prevents disappointment. On Seek For Sugar, both sides describe in advance what they offer and what they are looking for. Nobody has to do anything they do not want to do.

Usually time, attention, companionship and reliability, such as dining out, outings or travelling together. What exactly is for the two of you to decide. In return, a sugar baby expects respect, discretion and clarity. Nobody is obliged to do anything they do not want to. Seek For Sugar is a platform for genuine connections between adults. Sexual services are not permitted here, and we do not encourage them in any way.

You can delete your account at any time through your settings or by contacting us. We then delete your profile, photos and personal data, except what we are legally required to keep, such as invoices. You can read more in our privacy policy.